From hurt to healing

The death of a baby is one of the most painful things that can happen to a family. It's so unfair. Babies aren't supposed to die. They are the beginning of life, not the end.

Your baby may have died in your womb, either early or later in your pregnancy. Or your baby may have died at birth or just after birth. You may be overwhelmed by your feelings. Know that you are not alone in your grief. The March of Dimes is sorry for your loss. We hope we can help you come to deal with the death of your baby by reading these articles.

The information here can help you and your family understand your grief and feelings and learn how to ask for help. It gives suggestions for dealing with family and friends while you're grieving and how to help your other children understand your family's loss. And finally, when you are ready, there are suggestions on how you and your family can remember your baby.

We hope this helps you heal… and when you're ready, think about the future.

Order bereavement materials
Order our resources for grieving families, including the booklet From Hurt to Healing.

Most common questions

How do you know if you’re clinically depressed?

Some grieving parents may show signs of depression. This is a medical condition in which a person has strong feelings of sadness that last for a long time. If you’re depressed, you may need special treatment from a health care provider.

Some signs that you may be depressed include:

  • Having little interest in usual activities or hobbies
  • Feeling tired all the time
  • Gaining or losing weight
  • Having trouble sleeping or sleeping too much
  • Having trouble concentrating or making decisions
  • Thinking about suicide or death

If you think you may have depression, talk to your health care provider. Your provider can help treat your depression.

How long does grief last?

There’s no right amount of time to grieve. It takes as long as it takes. You may feel better in a few weeks or months. Or it may take longer. If you feel like your grief is lasting longer than it should, talk to your health care provider.

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