In the NICU
Understanding your feelings
Rest assured that feeling distant is a normal reaction for parents during the early weeks of their infant's NICU stay. And feeling distant doesn't mean you're not bonding.
Your bond with your baby began during pregnancy and continues to grow long after your baby is born. Be patient with yourself. Over time, as you adjust to the NICU, you'll feel closer and more like a parent to your baby.
As time passes and your emotions change, keep in mind that most NICU parents feel many positive and negative feelings--even at the same time. This is because your heartfelt connection with your baby includes all the joy and pain.
Also know that many NICUs welcome parents and encourage them to help take care of their babies. As soon as your baby is ready, you will be able to bathe, feed, dress and hold him. You also can learn to perform some routine medical care for your baby, such as taking his temperature.
You may feel nervous at first, but your baby's nurses will show you what to do. Taking care of your baby will help you feel closer to him. And as you begin to feel more involved, you'll feel more confident as a parent, and more certain of your ability to take care of your baby after he comes home.
As a parent, you can give unique and loving comfort to your baby. Medical technology is important, but your little one also needs your gentle touch and nurturing voice. Just as your baby is so precious to you, you also are precious to your baby. You have special qualities that no doctor or nurse can match—an intense love for your baby and a distinct familiarity that your baby finds calming.
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